And it's Pour ta Vie. Because life is for living. So, take a deep breath, exhale, and smile.
Thursday, September 28, 2006
Panadol....
FYI... One real story from a guy...My husband was working in a hospital as an IT engineer, as the hospital is planning to set up a database of its patient. And he knows some of the doctor quite well. The doctors used to tell him that whenever they have a headache, they are not willing to take PANADOL (PARACETMOL).
In fact,they will turn to Chinese Herbal Medicine or find other alternatives. This is because Panadol is toxic to the body, and it harms the liver. According to the doctor, Panadol will reside in the body for at least 5 years. And according to the doctor, there used to be an incident where an air stewardess consumes a lot of panadol during her menstrual as she needs to stand all the time. She's now in her early 30's, and she needs to wash her kidney (DIALYSIS) every month.
As said by the doctor that whenever we have a headache, that's because it is due to the electron/Ion imbalance in the brain. As an alternative solution to cope with this matter, they suggested that we buy 1 or 2 cans of isotonic drink ( eg.100PLUS), and mix it with drinking water according to a ratio of 1:1 or 1:2 (simply, it means one cup 100plus, one cup water.or 2 cups water). Me and my husband have tried this on several occasions, and it seems to work well. Another method will be to submerge your feet in a basin of warm water so that it bring the blood pressure down from your throbbing head.
As Panadol is a pain killer, the more Panadol you take, the lesser would be your threshold for pain (your endurance level for pain). We all will fall ill as we aged, for woman, we would need to go through childbirth.
Imagine that we had spent our entire life popping quite a substantial amount of Panadol (Pain Killer) when you need to have a surgery or operation, you will need a much more amount of general anesthetic to numb your surgical pain than the average person who seldom or rarely takes Panadol .. If you have a very high intake of Panadol throughout your life (Migraine, Menstrual cramps) it is very likely that normal general anesthetic will have no effects on you as your body is pumped full with panadol and your body is so used to pain killer that you would need a much stronger pain killer, Morphine??
Value your life, THINK b4 you easily pop that familiar pill into your mouth again.
As for myself, dah 3 years kot x ambik any kind of panadols... Mmg I banned panadol from my house and my family... If i see any of my family member take panadol mmg I bising la... Sbb mmg tau x elok for our body why take it kan.... So now of pening I just take a lot of Calcium & Magnesium,B Complex and Bio-C(with flavanoid, vitamin c just with ascorbic acid is no use).....
"We Care"
1. Insufficient rubbish bins that encourage us to separate our garbage; maybe this should be compulsory in office complexes and shopping complexes.
2. Not all schools have separate garbage bins for different types of rubbish, and therefore recycling is not taught from young.
3. An attitude change has not taken place – we definitely need a mindset shift to do this. We need to achieve critical mass on communication on recycling from all fronts; from the media, government councils, community centers, recycling centers, companies and businesses.
Recycling should be lead by large companies’ i.e. multinational companies that have experience overseas on recycling. For example, UK based supermarkets charge a small amount to customers for plastic bags they use when they make purchases. With this in mind, a lot of customers actually bring their own shopping bags to and place their purchases in the bags that they brought. Can such MNCs take on educating the public as a corporate responsibility to the community?? Which is the first hyper market that dares to charge customers for plastic bags first? Maybe, give them a few cents discount for plastic bags not used may be an idea.
I did this when I shop for food especially here. I said here because I tense to forget sometimes when I did food-shopping elsewhere. I know that this is not good. I still have to set my mind to practice this no matter where I shop. That’s why I will normally have plastic boxes ready in my 4wd no matter where I go, whether far or near. In case I have to pack some food, I already have some containers ready in hand. People around me would be very surprised when I brought plastic containers to pack food that I bought. The pic on the right shown the kuih-muih I bought in the evening for break fast. So did you realize something here people. I could save our environment. In fact the plastic containers were so convenient that I could just place them on our dining table, ready to be served. It’s also with plastic cover, to avoid from the food being aired or attacked by insects etc.We must change our attitudes towards waste disposal and recycling. The next time before you discard litter into the bin, look at what you hold in your hands. They are most likely to be made of paper, plastic, glass, metal or organic waste which are all recyclable one way or another. Yes, I agree with many that sometimes it is just too difficult to recycle when facilities such as recycling bins are scarce and few to come by. A lot more can be done by the government to promote recycling as a direct and effective method of reducing waste going to landfills.
What you can do to reduce use of plastic:
• Bring a nylon or cloth bag when you go shopping to save the use of plastic bags.
• Recycle plastic bags by taking along plastic bags from home when going shopping rather then using new plastic bags.
• Choose paper bags if you have an option to choose between paper bags or plastic bags.
• Composting is an efficient and environmentally friendly way of discarding home bulk waste which accounts for large proportion of household waste.
• An alternative is to use pots to compost if you don’t have a big garden. Get ten pots. Start by filling one pot with alternate layers of soil and household waste. Depending on family size, estimate three days per pot. Keep it moist. By the end of the month, the first pot will be ready for use in the garden or to store. Start the process again in the first pot.
Recycle everything you can; newspaper, cans, glass, aluminum foil and pans, motor oil, crap metal, etc. Click here to find out more about the 101 things you can do to conserve resources and protect the environment.
Tuesday, September 26, 2006
Anonymous Online
Whenever I came across the buttons labelled Sign Up or Register Now! I've always asked myself, should I key in my personal data here? Yes, I know now so many of the pages have already put up disclaimers saying that any particulars keyed into the forms will not be misused. Well, I'm Dayang... I always have doubts.
If you have this same feeling and not comfortable filling in the details, the good news is, you don't have to. It's quite a difficult thing to do, but trust me, you don't have to oblige to everything the webpage tells you. In other words, it's okay to remain anyonymous online.
In my case however, I can't remain 100% anonymous in the virtual world as my career revolves around it. There are certain times at certain webpages where I have to be the real me.
But if you are nothing like me, or not doing the stuffs I do, for example I have to download certain patches every six month from principal's website and must get daily update on latest operating system security threat, then by all means you can stay as 'ANON' for as long as you live!
How would you know that you'd rather be an 'ANON' or your true self online? My suggestion is to go to any of the search engines e.g google, yahoo or MSN, then type in your full name. See all the results returned and how do you feel about them? There's a high chance that you'd find some real information related to you there. If it scared you till you face turns blue, you should become an 'ANON'.
My bitter experience was I saw my whole personal detail including my IC number, place of birth, home town and home address returned by the search engine. It so happened that my uni has published students' data in one of the facultys' website in 1997. The main page now doesn't have a link to the pages anymore but the files are still in the webserver. Obviously the search engines managed to crawl and grab the contents even though the pages are inactive.
Imagine what happened to all the data we keyed-in in all those online registration forms. How do we know where they'd be stored? Who'll get their hands on them (both virtually and physically)? How sure are we that they're not being traded? What other systems are interfaced with that website we registered at that might be pumping those information out to be manipulated by other parties?
There were just too many questions I had in mind whenever I came across that Sign Up button that most of the times I just stopped at that page, and dropped the idea of downloading the song/movie/file/installer. Well, I'm Dayang, I get discouraged easily...
So, there goes the first installment. Coming up soon: How to become anonymous.
Author's Note: I'm Dayang... I write about IT stuff *Yawn*
Sunday, September 24, 2006
How to teach your toddler to do chores
Assigning chores to your toddler might well seem like a chore in itself. After all, a 2-year-old isn't going to be the neatest or most efficient worker. But giving your toddler even the tiniest measure of responsibility now will pay off later by laying the groundwork for future good habits. Plus, having a chore to do makes your child feel like part of the family, someone whose contribution is valued. When assigning chores, keep these pointers in mind:
Pick tasks that are appropriate to your child's age.
Be sure to choose simple, straightforward jobs, since your toddler simply doesn't have the cognitive ability yet to break down a large project into its components. Tell him to go clean his room, for instance, and you're likely to be met with a blank stare. But he could be responsible for one part of the job, such as putting his clothes in the laundry basket or helping you pick up all his toys. And define chores loosely: putting his bowl and spoon on the table before dinner could constitute a chore, as could putting his toothbrush back in the holder.
Toddlers want to be just like Mom and Dad, so capitalize on your power as a role model and let your child work alongside you as an assistant. Hand him a sponge while you're cleaning the kitchen and let him wipe off the table. You'll find him quite willing -- even thrilled -- to be called on to help.
Keep instructions low-key.
Before your child takes on a chore, demonstrate it for him, talking it through as you go. For example, you might show him how you sort light and dark clothing into different piles before you wash it. Remember, at this age, chores shouldn't be so complicated that they require a lengthy explanation. Anything that takes more than a minute to explain is probably too difficult for your toddler to do anyway.
Stand back.
When your toddler first tries a task on his own, be patient. Jumping in too quickly to lend a hand gives him the message that you don't think he's capable. And never belittle his efforts. If you want to offer a suggestion, do it kindly: Instead of saying "No, that's not right," try "You're doing a great job sorting laundry. I like to put the brown socks in with dark clothes, though, since they're a darker color."
Make helping a habit.
Get everyone into a routine by doing chores at about the same time every day. For instance, your toddler's jobs might be to put his pajamas away in the morning and pick up his toys every evening before bed. You also might try designating a particular day of the week as cleaning day and giving your toddler a bigger job, such as helping with dusting or sweeping.
It helps to post a list of household chores and who has to do them. This way your child learns that everyone in the family contributes to the smooth running of the household. Since your child won't be reading for a few years yet, look for a ready-made chore chart that uses symbols instead of words to represent chores (a broom for sweeping, a dish and dishtowel for dishwashing). A star or sticker next to a completed chore is an ample reward, along with plenty of praise for a job well done. And remember to adjust your child's chores as he grows.
Whistle while you work.
Getting to spend more time with you is one of the biggest incentives for your child to do chores, so don't send him off to work alone until he's older and more experienced. Even if his job is to pick up the Legos in his room, stay nearby and chat with him, or join in with your own task. He'll appreciate your company, and you can encourage him if he loses his focus. Make his job easier by providing easy, accessible storage for his playthings such as clear plastic bins for toys.
Chances are your child will think a job like sweeping is actually fun -- especially if he has his own child-size broom and dust pan. So if you happen to view housekeeping as drudgery, don't let on. Make it a race ("Let's see who can get their toys into the box first") or sing silly songs together.
Be sure to tell your child what a great job he's doing and remind him how much he's helping you out. You can also point out the benefits of his work; if he's helping you wipe the kitchen table, you might say something like "Now it will be clean when we sit down for dinner." This gives him a sense of accomplishment and shows him just how significant his contributions are.
Don't expect perfection.
No child is going to perform every chore willingly every time -- and certainly not a 2- or 3-year-old! Just like grownups, kids have other things they'd rather do besides housework. If you need to issue a reminder, try to be friendly and matter-of-fact. Nagging almost never works. Instead, simply say, "It's time to put away your toys. Then we can read your bedtime story." Part of the purpose of having chores is to develop a sense of initiative in your child, so try not to micro-manage. Recognize that the task won't be done perfectly at this age -- and it doesn't need to be.
And above all, keep in mind that your child has a long, long time to learn to do chores. If it takes a few months for him to get in the hang of helping out, that's okay. It's a skill he can use for the rest of his life.
kuE's note:
i) I find this article rather interesting to share with other parents out there. I did similar to my kids too. Alhamdulillah... they did well ;)
ii) I also would like to take this opportunity to wish all muslims no matter where ever you are, Selamat Berpuasa and enjoy Ramadhan with your loved ones.
Saturday, September 23, 2006
Tuesday, September 19, 2006
Fresh, Revived and Exciting
We've got new members to this blog, who will not only share their experiences and wisdom with you, but will also share their wits and tips.
Firstly, let us introduce to you, Dnas, the engineer mommy to 2 boys, whose passion for writing started from the tender age of 11. Then, we have Kimi, the mathematical wizard, mommy-to-3-girls, who sees everything numbers but balances it off with witty writings and arts. Next, we have kuE, the single mom to 2 adorable kids, who runs a gas station, and still finds time to bake and quilt. And last but definitely not least, is Naddy, the successful entrepreneur, who loves to shop and dine with her husband.
With the addition of these wonderful, talented and witty ladies, we hope that our Life is Beautiful blog would be more resourceful, exciting and colourful.
Going back to the purpose of this blog, Eyna, Zura and Leilanie, have decided to create this blog for all women............ (and men); where we'll share with you tips and ideas on fashion, relationship, health, lifestyle, vacation, etc.We believe that life is to be enjoyed to the fullest - especially with our loved ones by our side. At the same time, we believe that, as a woman, we should treat ourselves right, eat right, dress right, think right and earn the respect that we deserve, in the every possible right way.
We hope you will enjoy this as much as we do - in blogging it.
To start off with, we've got 4 new articles to share with you, ranges from wisdomful quotes, to tips for your make-up, something for your bedroom and latest info on your skin care products.
1) Thought of the Day, contributed by Naddy
2) Tools of Trade, also by Naddy
3) New Headboard Looks for Your Bed, By Eyna
4) Sharing is Caring, also by Naddy
Take a deep breath, exhale and smile.......................
Because LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL
and so are YOU.
Monday, September 18, 2006
Sharing is caring
Health Ministry to test skincare productsPenang: The health ministry will investigate claims that banned substances have been found in SK-II brand skincare products.
Its parliamentary secretary Datuk Lee Kah Choon said random sampling tests would be conducted following reports in the vernacular dailies that China planned to withdraw the brand's nine products from the market as they contained metallic substances"We will also check on the authentication of the products and whether they are registered with the ministry," he said.
"All cosmetic products need to be registered before they are marketed and we have the 'stop, test and release' mechanism to make sure the imported products are safe before they are made available on shelves," he said
According to the reports, China General Administration of Quality Supervision, Inspection and Quarantine detected chromium and neodymium when it tested a batch of SK-II skincare products imported from Japan...
New Headboard Looks for Your Bed
(Courtesy of LHG.com)
Tuesday, September 12, 2006
About Kimi
Ten facts about Kimi that you don't know (and now do)
1. I love arts (drawings, movies, stage drama or theatre play, musical entertainment etc..), but cannot afford the time & money - how?
2. I have always dream of becoming a lawyer, but end up studying Maths! What went wrong, I also have no idea!
3. It took the doctors 3 hours to complete the "stitching exercise" after I gave birth to my first daughter!
4. I have 2 step mums and a total of 15 siblings altogether!
5. I hate protocol so much that I have to "live" with it now for the rest of my life!
6. I love sewing....with my hands, not using the sewing machine!
7. I can do quality based training (technical programs like Six Sigma, QCC, 5S, Project Tools etc), and I can also conduct soft skills training (Train the Trainer, Communication Skills, Presentation Skills etc)..... and some of my colleagues think I'm crazy... do I?
8. I wish to go to perform Haj in Mekah before I'm 40 yrs old....and the clock is ticking!
9. I have a very CONSERVATIVE husband and very attached to his children, and yet he's very modern & up-to-date with all the latest IT gadget and the state-of-the-art of everything that he buys, he uses, or he likes..... Hmmm... ever wonder where I found this rare species? Read my blog!
10. With reference to my no 9 item, I want to be a housewife, do all typical hosework, BUT have a part time job that I enjoy the money & doing it at my own convenient time. And I must have a maid at home if I'm going to be so, as I can't afford to leave my kids without adult supervision!
Favourite sports: Swimming, badminton, riding bicycle
Favourite books: Judith McNaught (influence of my sis, Che Aa), Sophie Kinsella (thanks to Leilanie), Reader's Digest (started to read in 1989 as an order from my dad) and any Six Sigma related books (the technical side of me...)
Favourite foods: "Keropok" (all range, from keropok lekor to potato chips)
Likes: Honesty, trust and faith
Dislikes: Dishonest and touble-maker people
Memorable Quotes: You can't change the direction of the winds, but you can change the direction of your sails to always reach your destinations! (source - unknown, more of cannot remember!)
Saturday, September 09, 2006
Tools of the Trade
There are dozens of different brushes in the market. If you can't afford them all, you'll need to invest in at least 5 of them: a blusher brush, a powder brush, a highlighter brush, a shadow brush and an angled eyebrow brush...
Besides that a good pair of tweezers and eye lashes curler are also important... Some other essentials like powder puff, sponges, cotton buds are inexpensives and should be replaced regularly... And most importantly, dun't share your tools for hygienic purposes.. If you're doing makeup for others (like yours truly), wash your brushes regularly...
What follows is a list of tools that are always in my makeup kit... (will put up pics soon)
1. Blusher brush
-tapered cut with a flat oval head to give the cheeks a healthy glow
Why you need it: allow you to deposit product precisely where you want it to be e.g apple of the cheeks
2. Powder brush
-larger and fuller than a blusher brush with a round head that allows you to apply loose powder over a large area
Why you need it: distributes powder evenly over the face and throughout makeup application, to reset powder and other makeup as it's applied
3. Flat head eye shadow brush
-small, dome-shaped brush for applying eye shadow
Why you need it: perfect for applying eye shadow directly to the eyelid and for blending eye shadows (colours)
4. Contour crease brush
-to add depth and definition to the eyes
Why you need it: to give the eyes more depth, esp for us Asian who has small eyes
5. Foundation brush
-to blend foundation
Why you need it: to apply/blends foundation on specific areas
6. Sponge tip applicator brush
-to apply eyeshadow or as a smudger
Why do you need it: for blending eye shadows or smudging eyeliner
7. Wet eyeliner brush
-fine, pointy tip brush for applying wet eyeliner
Why you need it: for precise application to the lashes, use with wet eyeliner or creme eye shadows
8. Angle brush
-angled tip for the eyes/brows
Why you need it: to create a nice smooth lines for eyes or brows
9. Lip brush
-for applying lip colour/lip gloss
Why you need it: use to line the lips and applying colours evenly
10. Spiral brush
-resembles a mascara wand
Why you need it: to separate the lashes and to remove excess mascara after application
11. Eyebrow comb
-brush/comb for the brows
Why you need it: to shape the brow and make it neater
12. Duster
-to dust away any excess powder
Why you need it: use at the end of makeup application to dust away any excess loose powder and to set the makeup
Other tools:
1. Eye lashes curler
2. Tweezers
3. Scissors
4. Sponges- for foundation/compact powder
*from my own notes
Friday, September 08, 2006
Thought for today
"How many of us go through our days parched and empty, thirsting after happiness, when we're really standing knee-deep in the river of abundance?"
— Sarah Ban Breathnach
"Happiness, not in another place but this place…not for another hour, but this hour…"
— Walt Whitman
"It is difficult to experience moments of happiness if we are not aware of what it is we genuinely love."
— Sarah Ban Breathnach
"With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world…Be cheerful. Strive to be happy."
— Max Ehrmann
"When we appreciate how much we have, we feel the urge to pare down, get back to basics, and learn what is essential for our happiness. We long to realize what's really important."
— Sarah Ban Breathnach
"Our happiness or our unhappiness depends far more on the way we meet the events of life than on the nature of those events themselves."
— Wilhelm von Humboldt
"…happiness gives us the energy which is the basis of health."
— Henri Amiel, Swiss philosopher and writer
"The ancient Greek definition of happiness was the full use of your powers along the line of excellence."
— John F. Kennedy
"Even if happiness forgets you a little bit, never completely forget about it."
— Jacques Prévert
Tuesday, September 05, 2006
About DNAS
performing arts. I was actively involved with theatres
during my teenage years and had to quit it during my
uni days due to time constraint and a very demanding
boyfriend (ex). LOL.

I have been a field engineer in the IT industry for
the past 8 years and now still deciding whether I
should stick with it or start doing something more
refreshing and fulfilling.
My passion to write came naturally during my primary
school years when my late father bought me a typewriter
after I scored straight As during my Penilaian
Darjah Lima exam. That was when I started learning
touch typing and after about a month I found myself
typing poems and short stories.
My masterpieces made it to the school magazines, but
I never found the courage to actually post them to
any of the commercial magazine editors or publishers.
When I was in Form Four I actually attended a
workshop on writing short stories that was so
inspiring and helped me a lot in writing.

My blogging activity started in June 2005, after
I officially resigned from my previous company. Those
were the days when I was going through the hardest
transition period ever. Maybe for some people,
changing job is just so normal but for me it was
such a trying time, that I had to find a therapy
by blogging.
The main reason I changed job was to concentrate in
raising my 2 sons and spend more time with my
husband. We've been married for more than 5 years then
and yet I felt like there was so much more
that I don't know about him. Rather than keep on
drifting apart from each other, I decided that the
old job was not worth keeping, regardless of how
much they were willing to pay.
So, now here I am in this blogosphere, sharing my
thoughts and ideas with you towards a better world for
us all. I hope my writings will inspire all women
(men as well) out there to face the challenges in our
daily lives so that whenever you're down or troubled
or confused you'll know which URL can help you find
an answer. I might not have the answers, but perhaps I
can help you find the peace of mind so that you can
start thinking.
Finally a really big thank you to the 3 angels who
invited me to blog here.
Friday, August 04, 2006
Brown is the New Black

This versatile hue can be paired with such colors as tangerine, teal, navy, lavender, nude and white, to name a few.
Mega Sales Carnival
Note :
Original article and part photo is courtesy of www.ivillage.com
(though, some content has been changed to fit this entry).
Monday, July 10, 2006
How to Plan for a Romantic Dinner at Home for Your Spouse

When was the last time you had a romantic dinner with your spouse?
You don't have to have a special occasion to host a romantic dinner for your spouse.
Set aside the excuse you can't cook.
If you are culinary-challenged, you can still plan a romantic dinner at home for the two of you by either choosing simple recipes to follow or by purchasing some of the meal courses from a restaurant or store.
Here's How:
- Set the stage of your romantic dinner by making sure the two of you will be alone. If you have children, arrange for babysitting at someone else's home.
- Plan your romantic dinner on an evening of a week that you are sure your spouse won't have other time commitments already scheduled.
- Do you want the romantic dinner to be a surprise or not? If it is a surprise, light candles in the entrance of your home to surprise your spouse.
- If the dinner won't be a surprise, consider giving your spouse an invitation that you write yourself.
- Send the invitation by mail, leave it on your mate's pillow, send it with a bouquet of flowers, leave it on the dash of your spouse's car, etc.
- Your invitation needs to be specific as to when the romantic dinner is planned. Be creative!
- Set the table with a tablecloth, cloth napkins, nice dinnerware, crystal, unscented candles, and flowers. The napkins can be rolled or folded in a pretty way.
- Sprinkle the table with rose petals or sparkly heart shaped sprinkles. You can set floating candles in small glasses filled partly with cranberry juice.
- Decide on your romantic dinner menu.
- Keep it simple, but don't forget the appetizers. Plan on serving foods that your spouse likes. This isn't a time to experiment with a new recipe.
- If you are going to order your part of your romantic dinner from a restaurant or other source, make sure you have time to transfer the menu items to attractive bowls and platters.
- Choose the music you want to listen to ahead of time, and have soft romantic music playing in the background.
- Create dimmed lighting for the room where you will be dining. Small, white Christmas light strings can have the desired look. So can a fire in a fireplace.
- Turn off the television, computers, and other distractions.
- Sample Menus:
- Enjoy!
Tips:
- Get dressed up.
- Have a plan on what you will do after dinner. You could take a moonlit walk together, watch a romantic movie, or dance to romantic music.
What You Need:
- A Plan
- A Menu
- Determination
- Candles
- Mood Music
- Romantic Movie
- Flowers
- Nice linen for the table, good tableware, crystal glasses
- Creative Thinking
Article courtesy of www.marriage.about.com
Thursday, May 11, 2006
Inspiration Words on Marriage
Wednesday, March 29, 2006
Decoding the Secrets of Body Language
Body language reveals many of our most intimate feelings, whether we intend to confide them or not. From simple eye contact to a light touch on the leg, body gestures are a very direct form of communication. In a romantic relationship, reading the cues correctly is critical.
The Eyes Have It
Eye contact is the most common initial sexual advance. Eyes can reveal sparked interest, fantasy, or disinterest. We inititate eye contact every day, in places as disparate as the subway, the office, the supermarket, and the bedroom.
Making eye contact is a simple, universal way to show someone that you are interested in them sexually—by making eye contact you make it easier for him or her to respond to you. When speaking in person, look at him or her directly, not over a shoulder or down at the floor. To show your interest across a room, hold your glance longer than you would in an ordinary social situation. Don't overdo it, though. Most people find anything more than intermittent eye contact (five seconds out of every 30) uncomfortable or threatening and will probably look away. You can assume some mutual interest if he or she returns your gaze steadily.
When your glance is recognized and welcomed, the recipient may move in a way that "opens up" the body, giving you more to look at. Perhaps he will stand sideways and push up his sleeves or lean back against the wall with his torso slightly pushed forward. Or she might place her hands in in the back pockets of her jeans, or playfully push her hair back off her forehead.
Other encouraging responses include raised eyebrows, eyes that are wide open, or fluttering of the eyelashes. If you are looking at each other for longer and longer periods and moving closer in toward each other, that is a definite mating call. You can test this by moving slightly closer and noting whether the person moves closer in or draws further way.
If your initial contact is not welcome, the person you are looking at may try to shield themselves from your view or try to create a barrier between you. Hence, if the object of your attention suddenly disappears into the crowd or abruptly crosses her arms or legs, she is saying "you're going too fast for me", or "I'm not interested right now."
Photo 1 - "The Gaze" courtesy of : www.ivillage.comFacial Expressions and Gestures
To send out a signal that you are interested in getting to know someone better, smile! Smiling sends the message that you find someone attractive and would like to initiate further conversation. Hand and head movements are also ways of encouraging people as you become interested in them. Turning your head and stepping in towards him sends the message that you'd like to get closer. Gesturing her to sit down next to you or moving over to create some standing room indicates a willingness to pursue conversation. However, make sure you stand or sit a proper distance away—moving in too close too soon encroaches on personal boundaries and raises issues of proprietary space.
Finally, learning to use touch can step up the pace of any relationship. To offer positive encouragement during the early stages of a relationship, try touching her arm or hand while engaged in conversation. When coming up behind, put your hand on his shoulder in greeting. But keep it subtle. Don't overstep the line between showing interest and being overly pushy. Remember, too, that skin-to-skin contact—touching a bare wrist, for example--is always more intimate than skin-to-clothing contact.
Photo 2 - "Hands" courtesy of : http://www.indiatimes.com
It Makes Sense
Along with body language, our five senses also play a role in physical attraction and intimacy. From initial visual contact to watching a partner undress, sight is an important sexual stimulus. Hearing soft music or the special intonations of your partner's voice can serve as a caress or foreplay to sex itself.
Touching and holding can foster exquisite closeness and intimacy on their own. The taste of good food and wine can put lovers in the mood by making them feel good and lowering their inhibitions. There is a definite correlation between eating and deriving emotional nourishment from your partner. The "smell" of your lover's body mingled with perfume or other scent can act as a powerful stimulant. Is there any question, then, as to the aphrodiasiac quality of a romantic dinner accompanied by soft music and followed by an evening of dancing cheek-to-cheek?
Photo 3 - "Dancing Cheek-to-Cheek" courtesy of : http://www.lifeskillsintl.org
Fast Forward to Intimacy
Let's assume that the above encounters have led to a relationship culminating in physical intimacy. Remember that body language doesn't end in the courting stage of a new relationship. You can learn a great deal about your partner's feelings and moods by paying attention to his or her body language before, during, and after sex.
Even though a partner may eagerly get into bed with you, he may be uncomfortable about having sex. Telltale signs include legs or arms that are drawn close in to the body, limited eye contact, and the presence of a physical barrier, such as a book, a pulled-up blanket, or a TV remote. If your partner is sitting on the edge of the bed, slightly frowning, or has arms pressed closely to his or her side, you can surmise that he is nervous. A relaxing, sensual massage will probably diminish his nervousness to the point that his arousal overtakes the discomfort.
You may also find that upon getting into bed, you partner turns her back on you and draws her knees up into a fetal position. This indicates inhibition and a performance anxiety. One excellent remedy for this is a warm, nonthreatening cuddle. Match your breathing to hers, and then slowly make each breath longer and more relaxed. Hopefully your partner will copy this breathing and spontaneously begin to relax.
Because many people find it hard to converse verbally, body language can help them communicate. As you learn to interpret the various nuances of body language, you can learn to understand what people are really "saying".
Photo 4 - "The Couple" courtesy of : http:artsindia.comWritten by Jill m. Shuman.
Article courtesy of www.beliefnet.com
Rrsources from the Social Issues Research Centre (SIRC)
http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html
Monday, March 27, 2006
Inspiration Words on Anger & Patience
Monday, March 06, 2006
Happy Birthday, Angels
- with Leilanie on the 1st, TunkuIna on the 8th and Zura on the 26th.
We turn 34 this month - this year and we're proud of it.
And we're very happy and proud that this is also to celebrate our TWENTY TWO years, (yes, people, it's 22 years) of friendship. From primary 6, when we know nothing about birds and the bees; up to Form 5, when we know a little too much about playing doctor_&_nurse, then we parted because we headed for different aims in our lives to pursue our dreams, we got married and we worked and worked, and had kids, and worked and worked, and still working and working ........ but above it all.............
....... the friendship remains. And that's priceless!
Click on the following links to read how we experience the day together :
Leilanie and her Murphy's Law
Zura and her Mission Impossible
Tunku Ina and her Part 1 and Part 2
Here's all (well, almost all) the photos we've captured during our birthday lunch date, which was held on the 3rd of March at the Penang Village in TTDI.






















Friday, February 24, 2006
Let's Stay Healthy!!!
Evening Primrose Oil
A rich source of the essential fatty acids which is important to maintain our health and well being. It is widely consumed as supplement for the purpose of maintaining health and beauty especially for healthy skin, hair and nails. It has also been used to treat PMS (Pre-Menstrual Syndrome).
BioZinc
A high potency nutritional supplement with added nutrients to help maintain healthy skin, hair and nails. It also helps to maintain the health of our immune system and important for growth and boost fertility in men and women.
Lecithin
Lecithin is as essential component of all cells and helps to emulsify fats in the digestive system; therefore it is good for people who have liver problems.
Fish Oil
Fish oil is a good source of fatty acids. Taking fish oil capsules is a convenient way of consuming healthy essential fatty acids, which can be found in oily type of fish, such as fresh salmon, tuna, herrings and sardines.
Ginko
Ginko is a traditional herbal remedy which helps improve blood circulation and aids memory. It may be useful for students, diabetic patients or people with blood circulation problem, and also for elderly.
Echinacea
A traditional herbal remedy used to relieve colds, flu and chronic infections of the respiratory tract. It is also known for its ability to improve our body’s immune system.
Horseradish & Garlic
These two, if taken together, is a good traditional herbal combination for the temporary relief of the symptoms of nasal congestion, colds, allergies and sinusitis.
Horseradish root helps to dry up excess mucus and phlegm. It also acts as antiseptic for the sinus tissues.
Garlic is famous for its antibacterial action; ease the symptoms of colds, influenza and bronchitis. It also helps to control the build up of mucus in the nasal tissue and able to reduce the mucus and phlegm form the lung.
Vitamin C
It is widely known for its ability to strengthen the body’s immune system and minimizing colds and allergies (sneezing and watery eyes). It may provide relieve for hay fever symptoms, assist wound healing and reduce the severity of coughs and colds. Some products are formulated to slowly release the Vitamin C dose over an hour period, therefore allowing a prolonged rate of absorption.
BioCalcium
This supplement is for the health of our bones and minimizes osteoporosis. It is a good source of calcium for those who require higher doses, e.g. pregnant ladies. It is a convenient way of ensuring essential calcium needs of our body is met.
Celery
It is normally consumes for the purpose of relieving the symptoms associated with painful joint problem.
Beta-carotene
It contains a natural source of beta-carotene and is a natural antioxidant. It converts into Vitamin A in the body and may be beneficial during times of increased vitamin A requirements. (Vitamin A is important for the health of skin, eyes and mucous membranes).
BioE
BioE capsules contain Vitamin E which is an antioxidant and free radical scavenger. Assists in blood circulation, promotes wound healing and reduces scarring.
BioACE
A combination of the major antioxidant nutrients Vitamin A, C, E, zinc and other support nutrients which provide daily antioxidant protection. Highly recommended for people living around polluted areas, people under physical and emotional stress, smokers, heavy drinkers, junk food eaters, diabetics and elderly.
People who do not eat vegetables or fresh fruits or people whose diets do not contain whole grains maybe lacking in antioxidant nutrients, therefore, BioACE is good for this group of people.
Vitamin B+C
A nutritional supplementary source of B group vitamins, folic acid and vitamin C, when dietary intake is inadequate. Vitamin B is important in the maintenance of the immune system and utilization of energy. It is a good source to help overcome vitamin deficiencies, help to overcome stress and boosts body’s resistance to infections.
Multi Vitamins & Minerals
A food supplement of essential nutrients for when the diet is inadequate. May help to increase energy and vitality. Also good for general prevention of vitamin deficiencies and recommended for women planning to start family and pregnant ladies.
Thursday, February 02, 2006
All About Skin
You know that many factors can affect your skin: the weather, your menstrual cycle, your cleansing routine, the Pill and yes, your diet. But there's one factor you don't hear much about: your ethnic background.
At the latest American Academy of Dermatology annual meeting, several research dermatologists spoke about the role ethnicity plays in the overall condition of your skin. Here, top skin docs offer insights that'll help you score and maintain a gorgeous complexion based on those revelations.
FAIR

If you have a pale skin tone that's between porcelain and bisque, this is your group. Most fair-skinned people are Caucasian, but they can also be light-skinned Asians and Latinas.
Basic Characteristics
Fair skin can range from being extremely dry to very greasy, but the most common denominator is a susceptibility to irritation, sensitivity and damage caused by UV exposure. The good news is that your relative lack of pigmentation means you have the easiest time scoring a uniform complexion. Even when your coloration is slightly off in places (from sun exposure, a breakout, a scratch or whatever), getting back to normal usually doesn't take the amount of time and effort often required of people with deeper skin tones.
Basic Care
Start your routine off with a gentle cleanser suited for your skin type (dry, oily or combo), but dermatologists emphasize that selecting moisturizers that'll help protect your fair skin from UV damage is key. During the day, use a broad-spectrum SPF 30 sunscreen laced with antioxidants. At night, opt for a cream that contains alpha-hydroxy acids or retinol to help speed up cell turnover. Another must: Get an annual total-body check from a derm. In between, look for moles and bumps that change shape or color or that hurt.
Common Problems
Hate to break it to you, but you're the first to show signs of sun damage (wrinkles, dark splotches, roughness). To speed up the sloughing off of damaged surface skin and reveal the fresher, sexier layer underneath, check out one of the new at-home acid peels or microdermabrasion kits. A good buy: L'Oréal ReFinish Micro-Dermabrasion Kit, $25.
Your relative paleness also makes redness look more pronounced. If irritation is causing your skin to appear ruddy, try a "calming cream" containing chamomile or other soothing botanicals. Color-corrective concealers, foundations and powders, often tinted a light green, can cancel out the red of pimples and broken blood vessels (your lack of natural UV protection makes you especially prone to these).
MEDIUM

This spectrum spans skin tones from light beige to olive or deep tan. More likely than not, you're in this category if you're of East Asian, Latin, Mediterranean or Middle Eastern descent.
Basic Characteristics
Having more melanin-rich skin gives you some natural UV protection ‑- not enough that you can ditch the SPF, but premature aging shouldn't be a huge concern. Also, your skin tends to be relatively thick, which often means fewer lines and wrinkles. But because it can also contain more oil glands, your skin may have enlarged pores and be prone to breakouts.
Basic Care
A salicylic-acid wash can help keep both oil and breakouts at bay. We like Benefit Wooosh!, $18. Also ‑- unlike powder, which can sit in and exaggerate pores ‑- blotting papers are a great temporary fix. Try Clean and Clear Oil Absorbing Sheets, $5. Another trick: Use a mattifyer under your sunscreen and makeup. One cult favorite: Peter Thomas Roth Max Anti-Shine Mattifying Gel, $35.
Common Problems
Skin with a decent amount of melanin is predisposed to produce even more melanin at the slightest provocation. Derms report that hyperpigmentation, such as marks that outlive whatever caused them in the first place (like a bug bite or scratch) and melasma (masklike facial blotchiness), are the biggest concerns. Hydroquinone-spiked fading creams reduce the production of new melanin and help to whisk away existing spots. Try DDF Fade Gel 4, $42. Newer fading formulas use botanicals purported to help disperse existing pigment clusters into less noticeable particles.
Because thick skin tends to have high concentrations of hair follicles, you may also have to wrestle with extra facial and body hair. Consider adding a hair-inhibiting lotion, such as Aveeno Positively Smooth Facial Moisturizer, $14, to your routine. Also, be aware that hyperpigmentation can be triggered by waxing burns, so if you let it rip at home, don't overheat the wax. If you go to a pro waxer, be up-front about your skin's sensitivity. For facial hair, try threading, a safe, time-tested alternative technique that tugs on skin less than waxing or tweezing.
DARK

Skin tones in this category can range from café au lait to ebony and usually include African-Americans, Afro-Caribbeans and women from India, Sri Lanka and other areas of South Asia.
Basic Characteristics
The lucky news: Your skin is the best-protected against UV damage ‑- not so much so that you can forget sunscreen (ever!) ‑- but enough that you're likely to look a few years younger than your lighter-skinned contemporaries. Your pigmentation also provides camouflage against redness and even cellulite. On the other hand, hyperpigmentation can be a big issue ‑- the skin pros point out that acne scars are a particular bummer.
Basic Care
Wage a war against pimple scars by making your cleansing routine about acne avoidance: Use a pore-cleansing salicylic-acid wash once or twice a day. We like Bioré Blemish Fighting Ice Cleanser, $6. But because you can't ensure against breakouts one hundred percent of the time, consider applying a cream that contains both salicylic acid as well as a brown spot-fighting ingredient. Try Neutrogena Advanced Solutions Acne Mark Fading Peel, $15.
Common Problems
Keeping your b-day suit free of any ashy patches of dry skin is challenging because the contrast between dead, grayish cells and your rich dark skin tone can be obvious. Go for rich lotions and creams, and moisturize as often and as thoroughly as possible, especially when your skin is still damp after a shower. And stick with gentle cleansers versus drying soaps. Try Dove Deep Moisture Body Wash, $4.50. For stubborn ashiness, keep a humidifier on while you sleep.
You may also be plagued with ingrowns. The culprit: a combo of coarse hair and curved follicles. Simply put, the hair has a hard time breaking through the surface of your skin. And as tempting as picking and excavating may be, just say no. At best, you'll invite hyperpigmentation...at worst, infection. Instead, opt for exfoliating and/or antiinflammatory products that coax trapped hairs out. Try Completely Bare Bikini Bump Blaster, $35, or Tend Skin, $20.
HOW BIRTH CONTROL AFFECTS SKIN TONE
The hormones in the Pill and the patch trick your body into thinking it's pregnant, which can produce the mask of pregnancy, or melasma. Sometimes this condition can be harder to treat than the pregnancy-induced version. Still, fading creams, Retin-A and peels generally help.
This article was edited by the author.
Original article, courtesy of ivillage.com


