Monday, December 11, 2006
In your 20's, since cell turnover is at its best, your complexion should be in optimum condition after undergoing major changes in the teenage years. If your skin is functioning properly, a basic skincare regime is sufficient. Avod soaps as they have a dehydrating effect. Toner and moisturise after cleasing. Don't use moisturiser on eye areas, use proper eye cream if/as needed. It's never too early to start using eye cream...
In your 30's, cell turnover and sebum production decrease and lines and wrinkles become more obvious. Exfoliate your skin at least twice a week and use a hydrating mask once a week. Use eye-cream at night and in the morning as part of your skincare regime.Pigmentation problems are common during these years as the skin become less efficient at manufacturing melanin. Brown patches known as melasma or chloasma can appear around the eyes, lips, cheeks and forehead during pregnancy, or as a result of hormonal changes, exposure to sun or taking contraceptive pills.
In your 40's, the protective film on the skin's surface become less effective at retaining moisture. This causes a much higher percentage of water loss, which leads to dryness. Use treatment products as part of daily skincare regime.Fine lines, wrinkles, broken veins and dull skin can be made less apparent with regular facials. Increase your intake of antioxidants by eating fresh fruits and vegetables and taking proper supplements to ensure good nutrients to you skin and body.
Sun or age spots on the face can be treated using treatment products such as spot treatment, intensive repair serum, vitamin c and wild yam.
In your 50's, cell turnover decreases by almost 50%, the production of sebum for natural hydration slows down and the skin's outer layer become less resilient. After menopause, oestrogen (the skin's youth hormone) production slows down and the skin become much drier. Oestrogen diminishes collagen (the skin's sctructural support system), making the skin thinner. Using products containing AHA (alpha hydroxy acid) is believed to boost the production of collagen. Look for moisture rich products. Ensure that you drink sufficient amounts of clean treated water daily.
The skin's need change from season to season and with age, hormonal fluctuations, diet & lifestyle. Finding products to suit these requirement is essential. To make skincare simple, first identify your skin type and then addressed its needs.
Normal skin- even tone, smooth texture, no visible pores or blemishes, no greasy patches or flaky areas. But do not neglect your skin, a great complexion won't last forever without proper caring.
Sensitive skin- commonly dry, delicate and prone to allergic reactions. Red skin and blotchy skin.
Oily skin- over production of sebum which results in spots and blemishes.
Dry skin- has low level of sebum and can be prone to sensitivity. Dryness is caused by wind, extreme temperature and airconditioning, causes skin to flake and feel tight.Combination skin- usually oily in the T-zone.
A healthy diet is essential for healthy skin. Vitamin c with bioflavanoid is required for collagen production, vitamin e is vital for skin condition and vit b repair the skin.Evening primrose oil are beneficial for the skin. They contain GLA, an essential fatty acid reputed to strengthen skin cells and boost their moisture content. Get sufficient sleep as the skin's cellular repair activity is at its optimum during this resting period. Exercise benefits skin as it boosts circulation and encourages blood flow. Regular exercise will nourish and cleanse your skin from within. Cleanse, tone and moisturise is a MUST... Plus other treatment products..
Tuesday, November 07, 2006
Difficulty Level: Medium
Time to prepare: Less than 20 minutes.
Serves: 7-10 people
2 packets of hot dog buns (total of 12 pieces)
1 packet of minced meat or minced chicken
300g round cabbage
1 big onion ) to be pounded
4 garlics )
salt to taste
butter (@room temperature)
Prepare the meat/chicken
Pound onion and garlic to make paste.
Heat 1 tablespoon of butter in a flat bottomed pan on a medium heat.
Sautee onion-garlic paste until brown.
Add all minced meat/chicken. Stir a little to mix well with onion/garlic paste.
Add the white pepper, black pepper and salt after the meat/chicken liquid starts to dry.
Stir for 2 minute, turn the fire off and set aside.
What to do with the round cabbage
Cut the cabbage coleslaw style.
Rinse under running water and then set aside.
What to do with the eggs
Break all eggs into a large bowl. Add salt and a dash of white pepper to taste. Beat lightly for about 10 seconds.
Add in the fried meat/chicken. Mix well with the egg.
Cooking the John
1.Melt a teaspoon of butter in the pan (set fire to medium).
2.Use a medium sized ladle, take a scoop of the meat-egg mix and spread evenly on the flat bottomed pan.
3.Meanwhile, use a sharp knife to cut the hotdog bun into 2 (without separating the pieces).
4. With the bun's opened section facing down, put and press the bun evenly onto the meat-egg in the pan. Let it cook for about 2 minutes. Don't turn the bun.
5. Once the meat-egg is cooked, transfer your Little John onto the serving tray and let it cool off. Don't need to trim the egg at the edges so that your Little John has some attitude :)
Repeat steps 1-5 for the rest of the buns.
Preparing to serve
Put enough cabbage in each Little John and spread with chilli/ketchup and mayonnaise. Cut Little John into pieces or serve as it is.
Good luck to you all, and you're welcomed to improvise. I'm not putting any pictures here. It would be good if you could post the pictures of your versions of Little John :).
Saturday, October 21, 2006
Fair or not, appearance matters in the workplace. Just ask Desiree Goodwin. The Harvard assistant librarian sued the university in 2005, claiming she was rejected for jobs or passed over for promotions 16 times because her supervisors viewed her as just as "pretty girl" who "wore sexy outfits," according to media reports.
When it comes to professional perception, clothes make a difference. According to a survey by Office Team, an administrative staffing firm, 80 percent of workers say a person's work wardrobe affects his or her professional image.
This means that dressing appropriately is a must if you want to be taken seriously at work. But knowing what's acceptable attire isn't easy in today's workplace. Business-casual dress codes vary widely between companies, and even between departments. The following items, however, are almost never acceptable to wear to work:
1. The Crime: Poor-fitting clothing.
Too-tight clothing is never flattering and usually too revealing, but too-baggy clothes make you look sloppy and unprofessional. Pant length also matters -- if you're showing too much sock or leg, expect to be teased all day about an upcoming flood.
Redemption: Find a good tailor. It's a rare person who actually looks good in clothes directly off the rack. Buy an item to fit the fullest parts of your body, and the tailor can nip in the rest.
2. The Crime: Too much perfume or cologne.
You never want your co-workers or clients to smell you before they see you, and a colleague could be severely allergic to your favorite scent.
Redemption: Apply perfume or cologne with an extremely light hand. If you spritz too much, put some rubbing alcohol on a cotton ball and dab off the excess.
3. The Crime: Shorts or too-short skirts.
Showing too much leg is never a good professional move -- for women or men. Revealing a little leg makes men appear overly casual or sloppy, and makes women look more sexy than serious.
Redemption: Men should stick with long pants, and women should wear shorts or skirts that hit within an inch-and-a-half of the knee.
4. The Crime: Out-of-control hair.
Whether it's frizzy coifs or bushy beards, wild hair just doesn't look professional.
Redemption: Women should invest in a good haircut and some styling products that can reduce poufiness and make hair easier to manage. Men should keep their facial hair well-trimmed, or better yet, go clean-shaven.
5. The Crime: Dirty, ripped or torn jeans.
Even on casual Fridays, ripped jeans look too dirty and messy for the workplace.
Redemption: When you do choose to wear jeans to work, make sure they are well-fitting and in extremely good condition.
6. The Crime: Cleavage.
There are very few legitimate jobs where showing off your chest is a good career move.
Redemption: Cover up. Whenever possible, avoid wearing anything low-cut to the office. If you can't part with your V-neck shirts, simply buy a few camisole shirts to wear underneath them.
7. The Crime: Tank tops.
Showing too much skin in the office is never a good idea in the office, and tank tops are especially inappropriate for men.
Redemption: If it's hot outside and you're going out with friends after work, simply keep a cardigan at your desk to cover up. That way, you'll stay comfortable in frigid air conditioning and look professional when your boss stops by.
8. The Crime: Noisy jewelry.
An armload of bangles or long, dangling earrings are perfect choices for a bar, but downright distracting in the office.
Redemption: Keep your office jewelry simple. A small pendant, stud earrings and a delicate bracelet look much more professional than trendy pieces. Save your flashier jewelry for happy hour.
9. The Crime: Gym attire.
Even in the most casual workplaces, yoga pants, shorts, T-shirts and running shoes make you look sloppy and apathetic.
Redemption: At the very least, wear nice jeans and professional-looking shoes. If you're going to the gym or catching a flight after work, change into your comfortable clothes in the bathroom on the way out.
10. The Crime: Extremely high heels.
Extremely high heels are too sexy for the workplace -- not to mention impractical. Few things would be more embarrassing than wobbling or tripping over your extreme footwear in front of the boss.
Redemption: The highest heels you should wear to the office are 2 to 3 inches. That way, you'll actually be able to walk in them, and they'll be comfortable enough to wear all day. You might feel shorter, but you'll no longer fear grates or sidewalk cracks.
Laura Morsch is a writer for CareerBuilder.com. She researches and writes about job search strategy, career management, hiring trends and workplace issues.
Wednesday, October 18, 2006
This is an example of what you can have if you be friend with the earth.... these banana (picture taken 12SEP06) are the first version of my little "fruit orchard" at my backyard... Not a very big area, just 5'x15'... but I do have:
1. Banana trees
2. Chili plants
3. Pineapple plants
4. "Kencur" - a family of ginger
5. Pandan leaves
6. Serai (lemon grass)
7. Limau purut plant
8. Curry leaves
We also have manggoes, yet to ripe, in two big pots right in front of our house. Yummm... can't wait for this one! we had the first harvest sometimes early this year!
How can we ladies benefit from this? There's so many reasons why you should do this even how small your place is...... these are some reasons that I could think of:
1. you can to do some exercise - have to maintain it, or else can turn to be a "forrest"
2. you can enjoy the harvest together as a family... can even give some to your neighbours and friends.
3. Save cost - where possible, we should cut the household expenses - eg: you can bake fish wrapped in banana trees leaves!
4. when you love earth, earth will love you!
Can you help to add on to the "reason to start my own garden"? You can? Great... drop your ideas in the comments.
Lo lets go green everyone.... start digging or start potting!
Monday, October 09, 2006
I'm sharing this article because I think it is a good eye opener for married Malay couples. Sometimes, though the truth hurts, it will at least snap us out of our hipocracies and thrown into what is real.
As much as we hope more Malay marriages would last based on the values that we were brought up in, and the religion that we stand by on, the truth is, many misinterpret what is wrong to their advantage and interpret the right to their own detriment.
Maybe Malay wives, who tend to be more conservative and sikap "tak mahu melawan suami sebab dosa" attitude, and Malay men who grow horns the moment they become husbands, make it more difficult for any Malay couples to withstand the waves of marriage.
I am not saying that Malay wives must "melawan" when there's a miscommunication, but Malay wives must learn to nip it in the butt and put her stance across (from the start). Then, again, this is just my views and sometimes, what I feel and believe in may not make sense to you.
Let's take a moment and read the article written by Zainah Anwar, and maybe, just maybe, you would understand where I'm coming from. And see the importance of learning to relearn, so that marriages can withstand the test of time; because marriages like organisations, are built to last.
"HE wished her ‘Happy Birthday’, then he pronounced ‘I divorce you’! Can you imagine such cruelty, such heartlessness," said a friend whose 34-year-old daughter was unilaterally divorced last month by her husband of eight years.
She called me after reading the New Straits Times story (Sept 30) that revealed the disproportionately high divorce rate among Muslims (15,000) compared with Chinese and Indians (3,000).
A Muslim man’s unilateral right to divorce his wife at will is one of the causes of the higher rate of divorce among Muslims. The ease and impunity with which men pronounce divorce led the religious authorities to put a stop to this practice in the 1984 model Islamic Family Law adopted by the states in Malaysia. Malaysia was then one of the first Muslim countries to provide for divorce to take place only in court. This was in accordance with the Quranic teachings urging husbands and wives "to live together on equitable terms or to separate in kindness".
But in 1994, because of objections from certain quarters, the law was amended to allow the registration of divorces outside the courts, thus defeating the original intent and spirit of the 1984 law reform. Now, one only has to pay a minimal fine for breaking the law by pronouncing talaq (repudiation) without the court’s permission, and the divorce will be validated. Thus, this loophole in the law has led once again to the proliferation of such divorces. So, the stories of irresponsible men pronouncing divorce at will and in all manner abound again.
Many years ago, a friend’s husband wished her "Happy New Year" as the clock struck 12 and pronounced "I divorce you" in the next breath. Another friend did not even know she was divorced until she received her divorce certificate in the mail from the Syariah Court.
Then, there is the recent phenomenon of SMS divorce which the courts, in all their wisdom, have recognised as a valid pronouncement of divorce. At the Sisters in Islam legal clinic, we get emails and letters from perplexed women over the issue of ta’liq sepah, where their husbands pronounce conditional divorce for whatever reason they fancy.
These unregulated conditions include: The wife stepping out of the house, going to work, going on a business trip, picking up the phone when it rings, visiting friends or parents, speaking to a cousin he so dislikes, voting for an infidel political party, and so on. The women felt that these conditions were unfair and untenable, so they picked up the phone when it rang, spoke to whoever they wanted, visited friends and parents, and in one case, the husband drove her to work even though he said jatuh talaq if she went to work that day.
"What is my status, now? Am I divorced or not? But he is still having sex with me! Am I still his wife?" Women’s groups have long raised the multitudes of problems and the devastating emotional pain a woman goes through when her marriage is terminated without her being consulted or given any power or opportunity to prevent it or negotiate the terms. The calls for reform have included a return to the 1984 provision of divorce only in courts to increasing the fine and prison sentence as a deterrent against irresponsible husbands.
While some countries have made divorce more difficult in order to arrest rising divorce rates, others have put resources into marital research and education to deal with domestic instability and unhappiness before the marriage deteriorates or even before it starts. This is one area that the Malaysian government should seriously look into.
In the United States, government-funded research over 30 years has enabled experts to predict with almost 90 per cent accuracy which couples would end up in divorce. The use of video cameras to record every facial expression, gesture and change of tone has enabled John Gottman, regarded as the guru in the field, to identify four key behavioural traits that are the strongest divorce predictors — contempt (indicated by eye-rolling when the other partner is speaking), criticism, defensiveness and stonewalling. From this research, he came out with seven top suggestions to keep a marriage strong.
The most striking I felt was his demand that we set high standards in a marriage. The most successful couples, he says, are those who, even as newlyweds, refuse to accept hurtful behaviour from one another. The lower the level of tolerance for bad behaviour in the beginning of a relationship, the happier the couple is down the road. Another important tip Gottman gave is the ability to accept influence. A marriage succeeds to the extent that the husband can accept influence from his wife. This, he says, is crucial because research shows women are already well-practised at accepting influence from men, and a true partnership only occurs when a husband can do so as well.
And yet in a kursus perkahwinan (the pre-marital course made mandatory for all Muslim couples) I went through, one of the listed characteristics of a good husband, who is the leader of the household, is a man who does not listen to his wife!
While Gottman’s model focuses on behaviour, other researchers developed written surveys on couples’ attitudes, backgrounds and behaviour styles. One popular questionnaire taken by millions is called PREPARE which asks couples before they get married to answer 165 statements on a scale of one to five on a range of issues, including handling money, family roles, raising children, work and leisure, spiritual and religious beliefs, sex and affection, communication, conflict resolution, assertiveness and self-confidence. Developed by social scientist David Olsen and his team at the University of Minnesota, this survey also claims 80-85 per cent accuracy on who would be happily married and who would divorce within three years.
Olsen said he found couples who stayed happily married scored higher in such categories as realistic expectations, communication, conflict resolution and compatibility. The most common incompatibilities are communication, conflict resolution and money. Thousands of churches and synagogues in the US and even county governments now adopt PREPARE or similar pre-marital inventory tests and post-counselling sessions before performing a marriage ceremony.
For over 10 years, the Islamic religious authorities here have introduced the mandatory kursus perkahwinan and churches too have introduced pre-marital counselling sessions. The objective is well meaning as the emotional, health, social and economic costs of marital conflict and divorce to families and the state is destructive. This should give good reason for the government to seriously evaluate the effectiveness of these courses and invest in research-based marriage education.
In a kursus perkahwinan attended by my niece, not one, not two, but three ustaz within a span of eight hours told the young would-be grooms how they could break the law and take a second wife by crossing the border into Thailand. One even passed his handphone number should the men need his help. Two male friends attended courses recently where the ustazah taught them how to beat their wives the Islamic way. Take a towel, tie a knot at one end and beat her all over, except her face. If she is pregnant, you can beat her anywhere but her stomach! Now, such advice cannot be the skills one should learn in a pre-marital course if the intent is to assist young couples in developing friendship, partnership and constructive conflict resolution skills in an intimate relationship where conflict is inevitable.
Thursday, September 28, 2006
FYI... One real story from a guy...My husband was working in a hospital as an IT engineer, as the hospital is planning to set up a database of its patient. And he knows some of the doctor quite well. The doctors used to tell him that whenever they have a headache, they are not willing to take PANADOL (PARACETMOL).
In fact,they will turn to Chinese Herbal Medicine or find other alternatives. This is because Panadol is toxic to the body, and it harms the liver. According to the doctor, Panadol will reside in the body for at least 5 years. And according to the doctor, there used to be an incident where an air stewardess consumes a lot of panadol during her menstrual as she needs to stand all the time. She's now in her early 30's, and she needs to wash her kidney (DIALYSIS) every month.
As said by the doctor that whenever we have a headache, that's because it is due to the electron/Ion imbalance in the brain. As an alternative solution to cope with this matter, they suggested that we buy 1 or 2 cans of isotonic drink ( eg.100PLUS), and mix it with drinking water according to a ratio of 1:1 or 1:2 (simply, it means one cup 100plus, one cup water.or 2 cups water). Me and my husband have tried this on several occasions, and it seems to work well. Another method will be to submerge your feet in a basin of warm water so that it bring the blood pressure down from your throbbing head.
As Panadol is a pain killer, the more Panadol you take, the lesser would be your threshold for pain (your endurance level for pain). We all will fall ill as we aged, for woman, we would need to go through childbirth.
Imagine that we had spent our entire life popping quite a substantial amount of Panadol (Pain Killer) when you need to have a surgery or operation, you will need a much more amount of general anesthetic to numb your surgical pain than the average person who seldom or rarely takes Panadol .. If you have a very high intake of Panadol throughout your life (Migraine, Menstrual cramps) it is very likely that normal general anesthetic will have no effects on you as your body is pumped full with panadol and your body is so used to pain killer that you would need a much stronger pain killer, Morphine??
Value your life, THINK b4 you easily pop that familiar pill into your mouth again.
As for myself, dah 3 years kot x ambik any kind of panadols... Mmg I banned panadol from my house and my family... If i see any of my family member take panadol mmg I bising la... Sbb mmg tau x elok for our body why take it kan.... So now of pening I just take a lot of Calcium & Magnesium,B Complex and Bio-C(with flavanoid, vitamin c just with ascorbic acid is no use).....
1. Insufficient rubbish bins that encourage us to separate our garbage; maybe this should be compulsory in office complexes and shopping complexes.
2. Not all schools have separate garbage bins for different types of rubbish, and therefore recycling is not taught from young.
3. An attitude change has not taken place – we definitely need a mindset shift to do this. We need to achieve critical mass on communication on recycling from all fronts; from the media, government councils, community centers, recycling centers, companies and businesses.
Recycling should be lead by large companies’ i.e. multinational companies that have experience overseas on recycling. For example, UK based supermarkets charge a small amount to customers for plastic bags they use when they make purchases. With this in mind, a lot of customers actually bring their own shopping bags to and place their purchases in the bags that they brought. Can such MNCs take on educating the public as a corporate responsibility to the community?? Which is the first hyper market that dares to charge customers for plastic bags first? Maybe, give them a few cents discount for plastic bags not used may be an idea.
I did this when I shop for food especially here. I said here because I tense to forget sometimes when I did food-shopping elsewhere. I know that this is not good. I still have to set my mind to practice this no matter where I shop. That’s why I will normally have plastic boxes ready in my 4wd no matter where I go, whether far or near. In case I have to pack some food, I already have some containers ready in hand. People around me would be very surprised when I brought plastic containers to pack food that I bought. The pic on the right shown the kuih-muih I bought in the evening for break fast. So did you realize something here people. I could save our environment. In fact the plastic containers were so convenient that I could just place them on our dining table, ready to be served. It’s also with plastic cover, to avoid from the food being aired or attacked by insects etc.
We must change our attitudes towards waste disposal and recycling. The next time before you discard litter into the bin, look at what you hold in your hands. They are most likely to be made of paper, plastic, glass, metal or organic waste which are all recyclable one way or another. Yes, I agree with many that sometimes it is just too difficult to recycle when facilities such as recycling bins are scarce and few to come by. A lot more can be done by the government to promote recycling as a direct and effective method of reducing waste going to landfills.
What you can do to reduce use of plastic:
• Bring a nylon or cloth bag when you go shopping to save the use of plastic bags.
• Recycle plastic bags by taking along plastic bags from home when going shopping rather then using new plastic bags.
• Choose paper bags if you have an option to choose between paper bags or plastic bags.
• Composting is an efficient and environmentally friendly way of discarding home bulk waste which accounts for large proportion of household waste.
• An alternative is to use pots to compost if you don’t have a big garden. Get ten pots. Start by filling one pot with alternate layers of soil and household waste. Depending on family size, estimate three days per pot. Keep it moist. By the end of the month, the first pot will be ready for use in the garden or to store. Start the process again in the first pot.
Recycle everything you can; newspaper, cans, glass, aluminum foil and pans, motor oil, crap metal, etc. Click here to find out more about the 101 things you can do to conserve resources and protect the environment.
Tuesday, September 26, 2006
Whenever I came across the buttons labelled Sign Up or Register Now! I've always asked myself, should I key in my personal data here? Yes, I know now so many of the pages have already put up disclaimers saying that any particulars keyed into the forms will not be misused. Well, I'm Dayang... I always have doubts.
If you have this same feeling and not comfortable filling in the details, the good news is, you don't have to. It's quite a difficult thing to do, but trust me, you don't have to oblige to everything the webpage tells you. In other words, it's okay to remain anyonymous online.
In my case however, I can't remain 100% anonymous in the virtual world as my career revolves around it. There are certain times at certain webpages where I have to be the real me.
But if you are nothing like me, or not doing the stuffs I do, for example I have to download certain patches every six month from principal's website and must get daily update on latest operating system security threat, then by all means you can stay as 'ANON' for as long as you live!
How would you know that you'd rather be an 'ANON' or your true self online? My suggestion is to go to any of the search engines e.g google, yahoo or MSN, then type in your full name. See all the results returned and how do you feel about them? There's a high chance that you'd find some real information related to you there. If it scared you till you face turns blue, you should become an 'ANON'.
My bitter experience was I saw my whole personal detail including my IC number, place of birth, home town and home address returned by the search engine. It so happened that my uni has published students' data in one of the facultys' website in 1997. The main page now doesn't have a link to the pages anymore but the files are still in the webserver. Obviously the search engines managed to crawl and grab the contents even though the pages are inactive.
Imagine what happened to all the data we keyed-in in all those online registration forms. How do we know where they'd be stored? Who'll get their hands on them (both virtually and physically)? How sure are we that they're not being traded? What other systems are interfaced with that website we registered at that might be pumping those information out to be manipulated by other parties?
There were just too many questions I had in mind whenever I came across that Sign Up button that most of the times I just stopped at that page, and dropped the idea of downloading the song/movie/file/installer. Well, I'm Dayang, I get discouraged easily...
So, there goes the first installment. Coming up soon: How to become anonymous.
Author's Note: I'm Dayang... I write about IT stuff *Yawn*
Sunday, September 24, 2006
Assigning chores to your toddler might well seem like a chore in itself. After all, a 2-year-old isn't going to be the neatest or most efficient worker. But giving your toddler even the tiniest measure of responsibility now will pay off later by laying the groundwork for future good habits. Plus, having a chore to do makes your child feel like part of the family, someone whose contribution is valued. When assigning chores, keep these pointers in mind:
Pick tasks that are appropriate to your child's age.
Be sure to choose simple, straightforward jobs, since your toddler simply doesn't have the cognitive ability yet to break down a large project into its components. Tell him to go clean his room, for instance, and you're likely to be met with a blank stare. But he could be responsible for one part of the job, such as putting his clothes in the laundry basket or helping you pick up all his toys. And define chores loosely: putting his bowl and spoon on the table before dinner could constitute a chore, as could putting his toothbrush back in the holder.
Toddlers want to be just like Mom and Dad, so capitalize on your power as a role model and let your child work alongside you as an assistant. Hand him a sponge while you're cleaning the kitchen and let him wipe off the table. You'll find him quite willing -- even thrilled -- to be called on to help.
Keep instructions low-key.
Before your child takes on a chore, demonstrate it for him, talking it through as you go. For example, you might show him how you sort light and dark clothing into different piles before you wash it. Remember, at this age, chores shouldn't be so complicated that they require a lengthy explanation. Anything that takes more than a minute to explain is probably too difficult for your toddler to do anyway.
When your toddler first tries a task on his own, be patient. Jumping in too quickly to lend a hand gives him the message that you don't think he's capable. And never belittle his efforts. If you want to offer a suggestion, do it kindly: Instead of saying "No, that's not right," try "You're doing a great job sorting laundry. I like to put the brown socks in with dark clothes, though, since they're a darker color."
Make helping a habit.
Get everyone into a routine by doing chores at about the same time every day. For instance, your toddler's jobs might be to put his pajamas away in the morning and pick up his toys every evening before bed. You also might try designating a particular day of the week as cleaning day and giving your toddler a bigger job, such as helping with dusting or sweeping.
It helps to post a list of household chores and who has to do them. This way your child learns that everyone in the family contributes to the smooth running of the household. Since your child won't be reading for a few years yet, look for a ready-made chore chart that uses symbols instead of words to represent chores (a broom for sweeping, a dish and dishtowel for dishwashing). A star or sticker next to a completed chore is an ample reward, along with plenty of praise for a job well done. And remember to adjust your child's chores as he grows.
Whistle while you work.
Getting to spend more time with you is one of the biggest incentives for your child to do chores, so don't send him off to work alone until he's older and more experienced. Even if his job is to pick up the Legos in his room, stay nearby and chat with him, or join in with your own task. He'll appreciate your company, and you can encourage him if he loses his focus. Make his job easier by providing easy, accessible storage for his playthings such as clear plastic bins for toys.
Chances are your child will think a job like sweeping is actually fun -- especially if he has his own child-size broom and dust pan. So if you happen to view housekeeping as drudgery, don't let on. Make it a race ("Let's see who can get their toys into the box first") or sing silly songs together.
Be sure to tell your child what a great job he's doing and remind him how much he's helping you out. You can also point out the benefits of his work; if he's helping you wipe the kitchen table, you might say something like "Now it will be clean when we sit down for dinner." This gives him a sense of accomplishment and shows him just how significant his contributions are.
Don't expect perfection.
No child is going to perform every chore willingly every time -- and certainly not a 2- or 3-year-old! Just like grownups, kids have other things they'd rather do besides housework. If you need to issue a reminder, try to be friendly and matter-of-fact. Nagging almost never works. Instead, simply say, "It's time to put away your toys. Then we can read your bedtime story." Part of the purpose of having chores is to develop a sense of initiative in your child, so try not to micro-manage. Recognize that the task won't be done perfectly at this age -- and it doesn't need to be.
And above all, keep in mind that your child has a long, long time to learn to do chores. If it takes a few months for him to get in the hang of helping out, that's okay. It's a skill he can use for the rest of his life.
i) I find this article rather interesting to share with other parents out there. I did similar to my kids too. Alhamdulillah... they did well ;)
ii) I also would like to take this opportunity to wish all muslims no matter where ever you are, Selamat Berpuasa and enjoy Ramadhan with your loved ones.
Tuesday, September 19, 2006
We've got new members to this blog, who will not only share their experiences and wisdom with you, but will also share their wits and tips.
Firstly, let us introduce to you, Dnas, the engineer mommy to 2 boys, whose passion for writing started from the tender age of 11. Then, we have Kimi, the mathematical wizard, mommy-to-3-girls, who sees everything numbers but balances it off with witty writings and arts. Next, we have kuE, the single mom to 2 adorable kids, who runs a gas station, and still finds time to bake and quilt. And last but definitely not least, is Naddy, the successful entrepreneur, who loves to shop and dine with her husband.
With the addition of these wonderful, talented and witty ladies, we hope that our Life is Beautiful blog would be more resourceful, exciting and colourful.
Going back to the purpose of this blog, Eyna, Zura and Leilanie, have decided to create this blog for all women............ (and men); where we'll share with you tips and ideas on fashion, relationship, health, lifestyle, vacation, etc.
We believe that life is to be enjoyed to the fullest - especially with our loved ones by our side. At the same time, we believe that, as a woman, we should treat ourselves right, eat right, dress right, think right and earn the respect that we deserve, in the every possible right way.
We hope you will enjoy this as much as we do - in blogging it.
To start off with, we've got 4 new articles to share with you, ranges from wisdomful quotes, to tips for your make-up, something for your bedroom and latest info on your skin care products.
1) Thought of the Day, contributed by Naddy
2) Tools of Trade, also by Naddy
3) New Headboard Looks for Your Bed, By Eyna
4) Sharing is Caring, also by Naddy
Take a deep breath, exhale and smile.......................
Because LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL
and so are YOU.
Monday, September 18, 2006
Health Ministry to test skincare productsPenang: The health ministry will investigate claims that banned substances have been found in SK-II brand skincare products.
Its parliamentary secretary Datuk Lee Kah Choon said random sampling tests would be conducted following reports in the vernacular dailies that China planned to withdraw the brand's nine products from the market as they contained metallic substances"We will also check on the authentication of the products and whether they are registered with the ministry," he said.
"All cosmetic products need to be registered before they are marketed and we have the 'stop, test and release' mechanism to make sure the imported products are safe before they are made available on shelves," he said
According to the reports, China General Administration of Quality Supervision, Inspection and Quarantine detected chromium and neodymium when it tested a batch of SK-II skincare products imported from Japan...
(Courtesy of LHG.com)
Tuesday, September 12, 2006
Ten facts about Kimi that you don't know (and now do)
1. I love arts (drawings, movies, stage drama or theatre play, musical entertainment etc..), but cannot afford the time & money - how?
2. I have always dream of becoming a lawyer, but end up studying Maths! What went wrong, I also have no idea!
3. It took the doctors 3 hours to complete the "stitching exercise" after I gave birth to my first daughter!
4. I have 2 step mums and a total of 15 siblings altogether!
5. I hate protocol so much that I have to "live" with it now for the rest of my life!
6. I love sewing....with my hands, not using the sewing machine!
7. I can do quality based training (technical programs like Six Sigma, QCC, 5S, Project Tools etc), and I can also conduct soft skills training (Train the Trainer, Communication Skills, Presentation Skills etc)..... and some of my colleagues think I'm crazy... do I?
8. I wish to go to perform Haj in Mekah before I'm 40 yrs old....and the clock is ticking!
9. I have a very CONSERVATIVE husband and very attached to his children, and yet he's very modern & up-to-date with all the latest IT gadget and the state-of-the-art of everything that he buys, he uses, or he likes..... Hmmm... ever wonder where I found this rare species? Read my blog!
10. With reference to my no 9 item, I want to be a housewife, do all typical hosework, BUT have a part time job that I enjoy the money & doing it at my own convenient time. And I must have a maid at home if I'm going to be so, as I can't afford to leave my kids without adult supervision!
Favourite sports: Swimming, badminton, riding bicycle
Favourite books: Judith McNaught (influence of my sis, Che Aa), Sophie Kinsella (thanks to Leilanie), Reader's Digest (started to read in 1989 as an order from my dad) and any Six Sigma related books (the technical side of me...)
Favourite foods: "Keropok" (all range, from keropok lekor to potato chips)
Likes: Honesty, trust and faith
Dislikes: Dishonest and touble-maker people
Memorable Quotes: You can't change the direction of the winds, but you can change the direction of your sails to always reach your destinations! (source - unknown, more of cannot remember!)
Saturday, September 09, 2006
There are dozens of different brushes in the market. If you can't afford them all, you'll need to invest in at least 5 of them: a blusher brush, a powder brush, a highlighter brush, a shadow brush and an angled eyebrow brush...
Besides that a good pair of tweezers and eye lashes curler are also important... Some other essentials like powder puff, sponges, cotton buds are inexpensives and should be replaced regularly... And most importantly, dun't share your tools for hygienic purposes.. If you're doing makeup for others (like yours truly), wash your brushes regularly...
What follows is a list of tools that are always in my makeup kit... (will put up pics soon)
1. Blusher brush
-tapered cut with a flat oval head to give the cheeks a healthy glow
Why you need it: allow you to deposit product precisely where you want it to be e.g apple of the cheeks
2. Powder brush
-larger and fuller than a blusher brush with a round head that allows you to apply loose powder over a large area
Why you need it: distributes powder evenly over the face and throughout makeup application, to reset powder and other makeup as it's applied
3. Flat head eye shadow brush
-small, dome-shaped brush for applying eye shadow
Why you need it: perfect for applying eye shadow directly to the eyelid and for blending eye shadows (colours)
4. Contour crease brush
-to add depth and definition to the eyes
Why you need it: to give the eyes more depth, esp for us Asian who has small eyes
5. Foundation brush
-to blend foundation
Why you need it: to apply/blends foundation on specific areas
6. Sponge tip applicator brush
-to apply eyeshadow or as a smudger
Why do you need it: for blending eye shadows or smudging eyeliner
7. Wet eyeliner brush
-fine, pointy tip brush for applying wet eyeliner
Why you need it: for precise application to the lashes, use with wet eyeliner or creme eye shadows
8. Angle brush
-angled tip for the eyes/brows
Why you need it: to create a nice smooth lines for eyes or brows
9. Lip brush
-for applying lip colour/lip gloss
Why you need it: use to line the lips and applying colours evenly
10. Spiral brush
-resembles a mascara wand
Why you need it: to separate the lashes and to remove excess mascara after application
11. Eyebrow comb
-brush/comb for the brows
Why you need it: to shape the brow and make it neater
-to dust away any excess powder
Why you need it: use at the end of makeup application to dust away any excess loose powder and to set the makeup
1. Eye lashes curler
4. Sponges- for foundation/compact powder
*from my own notes
Friday, September 08, 2006
"How many of us go through our days parched and empty, thirsting after happiness, when we're really standing knee-deep in the river of abundance?"
— Sarah Ban Breathnach
"Happiness, not in another place but this place…not for another hour, but this hour…"
— Walt Whitman
"It is difficult to experience moments of happiness if we are not aware of what it is we genuinely love."
— Sarah Ban Breathnach
"With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world…Be cheerful. Strive to be happy."
— Max Ehrmann
"When we appreciate how much we have, we feel the urge to pare down, get back to basics, and learn what is essential for our happiness. We long to realize what's really important."
— Sarah Ban Breathnach
"Our happiness or our unhappiness depends far more on the way we meet the events of life than on the nature of those events themselves."
— Wilhelm von Humboldt
"…happiness gives us the energy which is the basis of health."
— Henri Amiel, Swiss philosopher and writer
"The ancient Greek definition of happiness was the full use of your powers along the line of excellence."
— John F. Kennedy
"Even if happiness forgets you a little bit, never completely forget about it."
— Jacques Prévert
Tuesday, September 05, 2006
performing arts. I was actively involved with theatres
during my teenage years and had to quit it during my
uni days due to time constraint and a very demanding
boyfriend (ex). LOL.
I have been a field engineer in the IT industry for
the past 8 years and now still deciding whether I
should stick with it or start doing something more
refreshing and fulfilling.
My passion to write came naturally during my primary
school years when my late father bought me a typewriter
after I scored straight As during my Penilaian
Darjah Lima exam. That was when I started learning
touch typing and after about a month I found myself
typing poems and short stories.
My masterpieces made it to the school magazines, but
I never found the courage to actually post them to
any of the commercial magazine editors or publishers.
When I was in Form Four I actually attended a
workshop on writing short stories that was so
inspiring and helped me a lot in writing.
My blogging activity started in June 2005, after
I officially resigned from my previous company. Those
were the days when I was going through the hardest
transition period ever. Maybe for some people,
changing job is just so normal but for me it was
such a trying time, that I had to find a therapy
The main reason I changed job was to concentrate in
raising my 2 sons and spend more time with my
husband. We've been married for more than 5 years then
and yet I felt like there was so much more
that I don't know about him. Rather than keep on
drifting apart from each other, I decided that the
old job was not worth keeping, regardless of how
much they were willing to pay.
So, now here I am in this blogosphere, sharing my
thoughts and ideas with you towards a better world for
us all. I hope my writings will inspire all women
(men as well) out there to face the challenges in our
daily lives so that whenever you're down or troubled
or confused you'll know which URL can help you find
an answer. I might not have the answers, but perhaps I
can help you find the peace of mind so that you can
Finally a really big thank you to the 3 angels who
invited me to blog here.
Friday, August 04, 2006
This versatile hue can be paired with such colors as tangerine, teal, navy, lavender, nude and white, to name a few.
Monday, July 10, 2006
When was the last time you had a romantic dinner with your spouse?
You don't have to have a special occasion to host a romantic dinner for your spouse.
Set aside the excuse you can't cook.
If you are culinary-challenged, you can still plan a romantic dinner at home for the two of you by either choosing simple recipes to follow or by purchasing some of the meal courses from a restaurant or store.
- Set the stage of your romantic dinner by making sure the two of you will be alone. If you have children, arrange for babysitting at someone else's home.
- Plan your romantic dinner on an evening of a week that you are sure your spouse won't have other time commitments already scheduled.
- Do you want the romantic dinner to be a surprise or not? If it is a surprise, light candles in the entrance of your home to surprise your spouse.
- If the dinner won't be a surprise, consider giving your spouse an invitation that you write yourself.
- Send the invitation by mail, leave it on your mate's pillow, send it with a bouquet of flowers, leave it on the dash of your spouse's car, etc.
- Your invitation needs to be specific as to when the romantic dinner is planned. Be creative!
- Set the table with a tablecloth, cloth napkins, nice dinnerware, crystal, unscented candles, and flowers. The napkins can be rolled or folded in a pretty way.
- Sprinkle the table with rose petals or sparkly heart shaped sprinkles. You can set floating candles in small glasses filled partly with cranberry juice.
- Decide on your romantic dinner menu.
- Keep it simple, but don't forget the appetizers. Plan on serving foods that your spouse likes. This isn't a time to experiment with a new recipe.
- If you are going to order your part of your romantic dinner from a restaurant or other source, make sure you have time to transfer the menu items to attractive bowls and platters.
- Choose the music you want to listen to ahead of time, and have soft romantic music playing in the background.
- Create dimmed lighting for the room where you will be dining. Small, white Christmas light strings can have the desired look. So can a fire in a fireplace.
- Turn off the television, computers, and other distractions.
- Sample Menus:
- Get dressed up.
- Have a plan on what you will do after dinner. You could take a moonlit walk together, watch a romantic movie, or dance to romantic music.
What You Need:
- A Plan
- A Menu
- Mood Music
- Romantic Movie
- Nice linen for the table, good tableware, crystal glasses
- Creative Thinking
Article courtesy of www.marriage.about.com
Thursday, May 11, 2006
Wednesday, March 29, 2006
Body language reveals many of our most intimate feelings, whether we intend to confide them or not. From simple eye contact to a light touch on the leg, body gestures are a very direct form of communication. In a romantic relationship, reading the cues correctly is critical.
The Eyes Have It
Eye contact is the most common initial sexual advance. Eyes can reveal sparked interest, fantasy, or disinterest. We inititate eye contact every day, in places as disparate as the subway, the office, the supermarket, and the bedroom.
Making eye contact is a simple, universal way to show someone that you are interested in them sexually—by making eye contact you make it easier for him or her to respond to you. When speaking in person, look at him or her directly, not over a shoulder or down at the floor. To show your interest across a room, hold your glance longer than you would in an ordinary social situation. Don't overdo it, though. Most people find anything more than intermittent eye contact (five seconds out of every 30) uncomfortable or threatening and will probably look away. You can assume some mutual interest if he or she returns your gaze steadily.
When your glance is recognized and welcomed, the recipient may move in a way that "opens up" the body, giving you more to look at. Perhaps he will stand sideways and push up his sleeves or lean back against the wall with his torso slightly pushed forward. Or she might place her hands in in the back pockets of her jeans, or playfully push her hair back off her forehead.
Other encouraging responses include raised eyebrows, eyes that are wide open, or fluttering of the eyelashes. If you are looking at each other for longer and longer periods and moving closer in toward each other, that is a definite mating call. You can test this by moving slightly closer and noting whether the person moves closer in or draws further way.
If your initial contact is not welcome, the person you are looking at may try to shield themselves from your view or try to create a barrier between you. Hence, if the object of your attention suddenly disappears into the crowd or abruptly crosses her arms or legs, she is saying "you're going too fast for me", or "I'm not interested right now."Photo 1 - "The Gaze" courtesy of : www.ivillage.com
Facial Expressions and Gestures
To send out a signal that you are interested in getting to know someone better, smile! Smiling sends the message that you find someone attractive and would like to initiate further conversation. Hand and head movements are also ways of encouraging people as you become interested in them. Turning your head and stepping in towards him sends the message that you'd like to get closer. Gesturing her to sit down next to you or moving over to create some standing room indicates a willingness to pursue conversation. However, make sure you stand or sit a proper distance away—moving in too close too soon encroaches on personal boundaries and raises issues of proprietary space.
Finally, learning to use touch can step up the pace of any relationship. To offer positive encouragement during the early stages of a relationship, try touching her arm or hand while engaged in conversation. When coming up behind, put your hand on his shoulder in greeting. But keep it subtle. Don't overstep the line between showing interest and being overly pushy. Remember, too, that skin-to-skin contact—touching a bare wrist, for example--is always more intimate than skin-to-clothing contact.
Photo 2 - "Hands" courtesy of : http://www.indiatimes.com
It Makes Sense
Along with body language, our five senses also play a role in physical attraction and intimacy. From initial visual contact to watching a partner undress, sight is an important sexual stimulus. Hearing soft music or the special intonations of your partner's voice can serve as a caress or foreplay to sex itself.
Touching and holding can foster exquisite closeness and intimacy on their own. The taste of good food and wine can put lovers in the mood by making them feel good and lowering their inhibitions. There is a definite correlation between eating and deriving emotional nourishment from your partner. The "smell" of your lover's body mingled with perfume or other scent can act as a powerful stimulant. Is there any question, then, as to the aphrodiasiac quality of a romantic dinner accompanied by soft music and followed by an evening of dancing cheek-to-cheek?
Photo 3 - "Dancing Cheek-to-Cheek" courtesy of : http://www.lifeskillsintl.org
Fast Forward to Intimacy
Let's assume that the above encounters have led to a relationship culminating in physical intimacy. Remember that body language doesn't end in the courting stage of a new relationship. You can learn a great deal about your partner's feelings and moods by paying attention to his or her body language before, during, and after sex.
Even though a partner may eagerly get into bed with you, he may be uncomfortable about having sex. Telltale signs include legs or arms that are drawn close in to the body, limited eye contact, and the presence of a physical barrier, such as a book, a pulled-up blanket, or a TV remote. If your partner is sitting on the edge of the bed, slightly frowning, or has arms pressed closely to his or her side, you can surmise that he is nervous. A relaxing, sensual massage will probably diminish his nervousness to the point that his arousal overtakes the discomfort.
You may also find that upon getting into bed, you partner turns her back on you and draws her knees up into a fetal position. This indicates inhibition and a performance anxiety. One excellent remedy for this is a warm, nonthreatening cuddle. Match your breathing to hers, and then slowly make each breath longer and more relaxed. Hopefully your partner will copy this breathing and spontaneously begin to relax.
Because many people find it hard to converse verbally, body language can help them communicate. As you learn to interpret the various nuances of body language, you can learn to understand what people are really "saying".Photo 4 - "The Couple" courtesy of : http:artsindia.com
Written by Jill m. Shuman.
Article courtesy of www.beliefnet.com
Rrsources from the Social Issues Research Centre (SIRC)
Monday, March 27, 2006
Monday, March 06, 2006
- with Leilanie on the 1st, TunkuIna on the 8th and Zura on the 26th.
We turn 34 this month - this year and we're proud of it.
And we're very happy and proud that this is also to celebrate our TWENTY TWO years, (yes, people, it's 22 years) of friendship. From primary 6, when we know nothing about birds and the bees; up to Form 5, when we know a little too much about playing doctor_&_nurse, then we parted because we headed for different aims in our lives to pursue our dreams, we got married and we worked and worked, and had kids, and worked and worked, and still working and working ........ but above it all.............
....... the friendship remains. And that's priceless!
Click on the following links to read how we experience the day together :
Leilanie and her Murphy's Law
Zura and her Mission Impossible
Tunku Ina and her Part 1 and Part 2
Here's all (well, almost all) the photos we've captured during our birthday lunch date, which was held on the 3rd of March at the Penang Village in TTDI.
Friday, February 24, 2006
Evening Primrose Oil
A rich source of the essential fatty acids which is important to maintain our health and well being. It is widely consumed as supplement for the purpose of maintaining health and beauty especially for healthy skin, hair and nails. It has also been used to treat PMS (Pre-Menstrual Syndrome).
A high potency nutritional supplement with added nutrients to help maintain healthy skin, hair and nails. It also helps to maintain the health of our immune system and important for growth and boost fertility in men and women.
Lecithin is as essential component of all cells and helps to emulsify fats in the digestive system; therefore it is good for people who have liver problems.
Fish oil is a good source of fatty acids. Taking fish oil capsules is a convenient way of consuming healthy essential fatty acids, which can be found in oily type of fish, such as fresh salmon, tuna, herrings and sardines.
Ginko is a traditional herbal remedy which helps improve blood circulation and aids memory. It may be useful for students, diabetic patients or people with blood circulation problem, and also for elderly.
A traditional herbal remedy used to relieve colds, flu and chronic infections of the respiratory tract. It is also known for its ability to improve our body’s immune system.
Horseradish & Garlic
These two, if taken together, is a good traditional herbal combination for the temporary relief of the symptoms of nasal congestion, colds, allergies and sinusitis.
Horseradish root helps to dry up excess mucus and phlegm. It also acts as antiseptic for the sinus tissues.
Garlic is famous for its antibacterial action; ease the symptoms of colds, influenza and bronchitis. It also helps to control the build up of mucus in the nasal tissue and able to reduce the mucus and phlegm form the lung.
It is widely known for its ability to strengthen the body’s immune system and minimizing colds and allergies (sneezing and watery eyes). It may provide relieve for hay fever symptoms, assist wound healing and reduce the severity of coughs and colds. Some products are formulated to slowly release the Vitamin C dose over an hour period, therefore allowing a prolonged rate of absorption.
This supplement is for the health of our bones and minimizes osteoporosis. It is a good source of calcium for those who require higher doses, e.g. pregnant ladies. It is a convenient way of ensuring essential calcium needs of our body is met.
It is normally consumes for the purpose of relieving the symptoms associated with painful joint problem.
It contains a natural source of beta-carotene and is a natural antioxidant. It converts into Vitamin A in the body and may be beneficial during times of increased vitamin A requirements. (Vitamin A is important for the health of skin, eyes and mucous membranes).
BioE capsules contain Vitamin E which is an antioxidant and free radical scavenger. Assists in blood circulation, promotes wound healing and reduces scarring.
A combination of the major antioxidant nutrients Vitamin A, C, E, zinc and other support nutrients which provide daily antioxidant protection. Highly recommended for people living around polluted areas, people under physical and emotional stress, smokers, heavy drinkers, junk food eaters, diabetics and elderly.
People who do not eat vegetables or fresh fruits or people whose diets do not contain whole grains maybe lacking in antioxidant nutrients, therefore, BioACE is good for this group of people.
A nutritional supplementary source of B group vitamins, folic acid and vitamin C, when dietary intake is inadequate. Vitamin B is important in the maintenance of the immune system and utilization of energy. It is a good source to help overcome vitamin deficiencies, help to overcome stress and boosts body’s resistance to infections.
Multi Vitamins & Minerals
A food supplement of essential nutrients for when the diet is inadequate. May help to increase energy and vitality. Also good for general prevention of vitamin deficiencies and recommended for women planning to start family and pregnant ladies.